So what with me and New Year’s Resolutions, anyway?

 

 

 

res·o·lu·tion [rez-uhloo-shuh n]

noun

  1. a formal expression of opinion or intention made, usually after voting, by a formal organization, a legislature, a club, or other group. Compare concurrent resolution, joint resolution.
  2. a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.
  3. the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc.
  4. the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.
  5. the act or process of resolving or separating into constituent or elementary parts.

Sounds painful.  Note the repeated use in the above Dictionary.com definition of some form of the word “resolve”. That’s not actually very helpful.

re·solve [ri-zolv]

verb, -solved, -solv·ing, noun

  1. to come to a definite or earnest decision about; determine (to do something): I have resolved that I shall live to the full.
  2. to separate into constituent or elementary parts; break up; cause or disintegrate (usually followed by into ).
  3. to reduce or convert by, or as by, breaking up or disintegration (usually followed by to  or into ).
  4. to convert or transform by any process (often used reflexively).
  5. to reduce by mental analysis (often followed by into ).

Ah! Now we are getting somewhere!

Those who know me even just a little, can appreciate my determination:  once I’ve resolved to do something, I’ll darn well git ‘her dun.  Think, ‘want something done, ask a busy person” and that’s me.  

I have noticed this year, however, that the New Year’s Resolution scales have tipped off balance (and yeah, not just metaphorically) because the excitement and energy put forth into setting new goals, no longer compensates for that inner regret and remorse in realizing, yet again, they will remain unaccomplished.

I am finding the predictable torrent of everyone’s lists of goals and resolutions this year are just a little more intimidating than they are inspiring.  My out-loud voice is saying, “That’s an amazing Resolution!  That’s great!  You go!” and I really mean it, but the voice in my head is actually wondering, “Really?  How are you going to accomplish all that??”  I continue to be energized by everyone’s passion in their New Year Resolution-making mirth but I seem to be a little more mindful of the obligation that comes with the next step… uh … carrying them out.

See, my plate was already pretty full up in 2011, so how in the name of New Year’s Resolutions and God Almighty do I think I can accomplish more in 2012?  Especially when 2012, and the world as we know it, is going to end on December 21?  Not that those 10 extra days would help, but I think it’s best if I just sit this one out, stand on the sidelines and cheer on everyone else’s fist-slammin’, list-makin’, weight-liftin’ ,picky-swearin’, pour-the-bottle-down-the-drain,goal-making Resolution Fever. Wait a minute, you’re not really going to pour those leftovers down the drain, are you?

Yes, this might make me seem a tad pessimistic, like my glass is not half full but half empty (come to think of it…), and maybe even a touch lazy, but let’s instead call it my age of acceptance.

I lead a very busy life, and it’s pretty darn fulfilling.  If I make room for even just one New Year’s Resolution, something’s got to go to make room for its achievement.  And I’m not sure what that would be, or if I’m willing to do less of it, or not be part of it at all. 

I read somewhere that people who break resolutions are weak; those who make resolutions are fools.  Thus, my pledge for 2012 is to stop being a foolish weakling!  There are things that have to get done, and I will get them done … there are things I want to get done, and I will get most of them done.  My plan is to enjoy the road I’m on…wherever it goes…

There! I guess I did make a New Year’s Resolution after all:   More of the same, please!

 So, cheers to all you ardent Resolutionists, and cheers to the rest of us too….

16 Responses to My glass is not half empty, it runneth over

  • Bravo! Here’s to resolving to revolt against resolutions! I am passive aggressively passing on New Year’s resolve too. I have the completely immeasurable goal of yogifying my life. You can read about it here: http://meaganfrank.wordpress.com/2011/12/31/ready-to-yogify-my-life/. (you’re mentioned in there BTW) If I can be balanced and centered by 12/21/12…just in time for the world to dissolve around me…that would be okay too I guess. Here’s to being satisfied with where you’ve been, where you are and where you’re going. I’ll follow your lead! MMF

  • This is wonderful! I think we are crazy busy as it is so it’s nice to see a realistic person say that this is your age of acceptance and you don’t plan to cram a few more impressive goals to your plate. Enjoy the road and enjoy the year…minus that pesky Mayan prediction! All the best in the New Year, Astra!

    • Annie, if impressive goals manage to creep onto my plate, I’m willing to tackle them. Then again, what’s I find impressive is not so for the next person, right? Again, age of acceptance! Thanks for stopping by, once again. Anything you can do about that pesky Mayan calendar??

  • I don’t really aspire to set myself up for failure by making lists of things I know I will never get around to, even if I have grand intentions. I wrote up a list this year, but it’s not anything I don’t already do. I vow to trust myself – hmm, not to hard. I vow to look into the mirror and accept myself… well, mostly yes, but we’re human and beautifully flawed. How can we expect that we’re going to love ourselves every minute of everyday? We can’t. so the next best thing is to stay present perfect, or as you said, stop being a foolish weakling. I think the trick to to revise as you go along. It’s kind of like raising kids, really. You know how one day one thing works but the next day it doesn’t? It’s the same for us. Most of the time I feel like the Tazmainian Devil is swirling around my head and there is not a chance in hell I can keep up with myself. Wonderful post, btw. I do ramble on.

    • Brenda, thanks for your ramblings! As always, some wisdom in what you say. I have not always been good at ‘revise as you go’ and have often seen changing the plan as a failure in my perfectionist planner persona. I hear you though … and think perhaps this age of acceptance is born of setting myself up for failure too many times! Thanks for this!

  • Having recognized you’re the kind of person who gets things done and realizing your schedule was pretty loaded in 2011, I think you are being realistic. It is foolish to set goals which are unattainable. Good for you!

  • This is the first New Year I didn’t think about resolutions and then when I started seeing everyone writing about them, I thought about it. What occurred to me is that it’s about revising all those moment to moment intents you have set as you go, consciously and judiciously–right on, Brenda!

    • Seems many of us are on the same page… why did it take me so many years to get here though?! Ah well, life is learning! Thanks for stopping by Rossandra!

  • I’m not one for resolutions. Not formal ones at least. If it’s not in my heart, it’s not going to get done, and that’s all there is to it. To resolve to be true to oneself? Now you’re on to something.

    • Well you seem to have it together, Laura, so am not surprised that what is not in your heart is not going to get done! I sure seem to do lots of things out of a sense of obligation rather than sense of loving! Happy new year to you and congratulations on your recent writing successes! Thanks for your support!

  • Astra, I wish I could say I was a foolish weakling, but alas, I’m just a weakling. I’m definitely not making any resolutions this year. Not that I made any last year either. I guess I don’t follow up and my brain knows this. As a result, it blocks any thought process that may lead up to making any. I am going to try to eat healthier. As it stands, I eat very poorly and it’s taking a toll on my health. Yep, I’m definitely going to try to stick to that change! 🙂

    • Food is a huge part of who I am, Bella, so I can appreciate that making the effort to eat healthier is a big commitment. Good for you, though, because if you can see and feel that it is taking a toll on your health, you’ll feel better for making those changes. My rule of thumb is always 80/20: eat well 80% of the time and maybe not so well the other 20%. I know for a fact that I canNOT give up everthing (in fact, over the holidays, I’m pretty sure I got that ratio reversed!). Any regime that restricts what I can and cannot eat is not a regime for me… it’s just deprivation. And we know what a soul in deprivation is like, don’t we?! Well, I’m not sure I do either, but work with me on this! Best wishes to your healthier you – and I fully support you on that!!

  • Great advice. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it! Happy New Year to you!

    • Thanks for dropping in, Mindy! Sometimes I end up breaking it even it I didn’t intend to 🙁
      Happy new year to you as well.

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